“The purpose of our lives is to be happy” -Dalai Lama
Did you know that your true nature is to feel good? Everything you do, every action you take, is with the hope that you will feel better in the doing of it. However, many of us have forgotten what it is to truly feel happy because life can be so hectic and stressful. We often have to cope with very difficult circumstances. And to read the words that you are supposed to feel good can be downright annoying to some. It certainly ticked me off too, at one point in my life.
Now, I understand that no matter what is happening to me, I have to figure out ways to feel better. And I have to do it as soon as possible. Sounds a bit crazy, right? How can you feel good when you just lost your job or your house or your cat? Shouldn’t you focus on how miserable it makes you feel? Shouldn’t you get depressed about it? Or should you try to figure out ways to feel better?
My point being is that you should be careful where you focus your attention. The longer you stay in a negative space, the more negativity you attract into your life. And I’m certain that you do not want more negative experiences. So, are you going to dwell in the darkness or are you going to pick yourself back up, wipe off the dust, and try to feel better?
Ways to Improve your Mood
1. Assess your Attitude
What is your typical reaction to challenge in your life? Are you a “cup half-empty” or “cup half-full” personality type? Do you react negatively to your mistakes or do you see the valuable lessons you learn from them? Do you tend to focus more on the problems or on the solutions? I could go and on with these questions, but I think you’re getting the point. You can tell by your answers if you’re more of a pessimist or optimist.
If you feel you are leaning more towards pessimism, it’s important to know that you need to make a change. Having a negative outlook is not serving you at all. In fact, it’s making your life worse. If you wish to be more optimistic, as I’m sure you do, then follow this simple exercise. Over the next month or so, pay close attention to your reactions. Catch yourself when you find that you are negatively judging a situation. Ask yourself simple questions such as: Is there a nicer way to look at this situation? Do I really need to be upset? Is there anything I can do to make it better? Is there something good to learn from this? Do I know the whole story or am I jumping to conclusions? Often, just answering these questions will nudge you into a more positive direction.
By simply being aware of your habitual reactions and taking action to improve them, you will make your life better all around. The wonderful quote by Martha Washington comes to mind. It states “The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not our circumstances.” This quote sums it all up. The bottom line is that your attitude has a huge impact on your level of happiness.
Make it a daily practice to carve out some time to meditate. No matter how busy you think you might be, you must make time. All you need is 15 or 20 minutes. First thing in the morning is best because it sets the tone for the rest of the day. If you don’t have time in the morning, then make it a top priority to figure out a time to do it. I know firsthand that meditation can change your life for the better. When you get into the swing of it, it can make you feel relaxed, peaceful, and content. It feels good while you’re meditating and that feeling spills over into the rest of your day.
3. News Fast
Please stop watching and listening to the news! It is often filled with the horrors of world. The last thing you want to do is bring that negative essence into your life. If you focus too long on the negative energy being broadcasted, it may lead to negative things in your life.
4. Make Love
Sex is innate and can be wonderful. It is a natural impulse within us for the purpose of procreation. Sex creates life. If experienced from a positive perspective, it can be one of the best-feeling activities available to us.
Find reasons to laugh more. Watch funny shows, movies, and comedians. There is a lot of truth behind the saying that laughter is the best medicine. You’ve likely experienced the relief that comedy can bring during a stressful situation. In my opinion, deep-hearted laughter is pure, positive alignment. There’s nothing more fun than that!
6. Listen to Music
Music is everywhere: In every race, religion and culture. In fact, it saturates our planet. Why is this so? Well, it’s because it is natural for us to enjoy it. Even our babies bop to the beat! So, start listening to music on a regular basis. I don’t mean listening to the sad, angry, and depressing songs. Rather, listen to the style/type of music that uplifts you. Go for the up-beat, pump-you-up stuff!
There are many other things out there that can help guide you in the direction of happiness. Spend some time trying to figure out what makes you feel good. And when you have mastered feeling good, regardless of your circumstances, then you have truly taken control of your life. And it is my promise to you that if you can maintain your happiness, then your dreams of a better life will become your reality.
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