“It’s not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change”-Charles Darwin
Change is inevitable. Nothing is permanent, all things change. In fact, our world revolves around it.
There are some people who handle change with ease. They instinctively accept that change is a natural part of life and they flow with it. They know that it will not help them if they focus on the bad aspects of change. Instead, they have established a habit of seeing the good in change.
Then, there are the rest of us. We struggle with change. We like routine, predictability, and status quo. It makes us feel safe, comfortable, and in control.
We can somehow manage to deal with small changes, but big change often leads to emotional turbulence.
For instance, we can resist change so much that we are willing to stay in a particular job position or relationship that we hate because our fear of change is greater than our hate.
The good news is that we can learn to stop our resistance to change.
The ironic thing about it though is that we must be willing to change the way we look at change in order to embrace change.
3 Steps to Embracing Change
Step 1. Understand Why We Resist
There are a number of reasons why we resist change and below you will find some of them. Perhaps these reasons will help you uncover why you are struggling with change.
Fear of the Unknown
You may have heard the saying “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.” The fear of the unknown can be paralyzing. We’d prefer to stay in unhappy situations that are familiar than to venture out into new, unfamiliar territory because we fear that the new situation may be worse.
Loss of control
We like to feel in control of our lives and create a sense of order. But if something changes, we risk losing our control and that makes us stressed and opposed to change.
Fear of Failure
Perhaps you’ve been longing to quit your soul-sucking job and pursue your passion, but fear of change is holding you back. You may doubt your ability to succeed in your potential new job. You fear that you won’t be able to handle new challenges that arise. You are afraid you will fail.
Loss of Status Quo
We enjoy comfort and security. We thrive on routines and structure. Because of this, we are reluctant to make any changes that could potentially disrupt our status quo.
Step 2. Acceptance
It’s important to realize and accept that it’s not change itself that’s the problem; it’s our negative reaction to change that’s the problem.
In other words, our attitude towards change will be the determining factor in how change affects us.
We can’t always control the changes happening in our lives, but we can control how we react to them.
The bottom line is that the only thing we have complete control over is our mind. When we consciously choose to see change in a positive light then we no longer resist change.
Step 3: Reach for the Good
Change comes in many forms. Some changes are viewed as good, others not so good. Some are under our control, others are not. Some are small, others big.
Regardless of it form, change is best approached from a place of acceptance. We need to make peace with it. We must reach for the good in it, no matter how hard it may seem. It’s the only way for us to learn to embrace change in our lives.
There is value in change:
- It can lead to personal growth.
- It can improve your mental strength and flexibility.
- It can bring about new opportunities that may not have been available before.
- It can offer you a fresh start or a new beginning.
- It can teach you important lessons.
It’s time to let go of the resistance to change. It’s not serving you at all.
Start today by changing things up a little. Drink tea instead of coffee, take a different route to work, or go to a new restaurant. Make small changes every day and work your way up to bigger ones. In time, embracing change will become a habit.
Once the habit is formed, you will rise to a new level of being. Change will feel natural. You’ll be more adaptable and resilient to change. As a result, you’ll be much better equipped to embrace all changes that come your way, including the hard, unexpected ones.